Terms of Service

Last updated: September 16, 2026

These Terms of Service ("Terms") are an agreement between you and Hit Me Up, LLC, a New York limited liability company ("Hit Me Up", "we", "us"). They govern your use of our website, our member app, and our iOS and Android apps (together, the "Service").

By applying for membership, creating an account, or using the Service, you agree to these Terms. If you do not agree, do not use the Service.

1. Who can join

  • You must be at least 21 years old.
  • Hit Me Up is a private membership community. Access is by application and, in some cases, sponsorship by an existing member. We decide who is admitted, and we may decline any application at our discretion.
  • Membership is personal to you. You may not share, transfer, or sell your account, and you may not let anyone else use it.
  • We may remove or restrict any account at any time where we believe it is necessary to protect the community.

2. Your account

  • You sign in with a one-time link or code sent to your email address. Keep access to that email account secure — anyone who can read your email can sign in as you.
  • Keep your account information accurate, including your contact email.
  • Tell us promptly at hello@hitmeupnyc.com if you believe someone else has accessed your account.

3. Membership tiers and Patreon

Membership tiers determine what parts of the community you can see and take part in. All membership tiers on Hit Me Up are free.

Some members support Hit Me Up through Patreon, which is a separate service with its own terms and its own billing relationship with you. If you connect your Patreon account, we read your current pledge tier so we can apply any benefits attached to it. We do not process your payments and never receive your card details. Changing or canceling a Patreon pledge is done on Patreon.

Hit Me Up is built around consent, discretion, and mutual respect. Our Consent Policy and community guidelines are part of these Terms, and you agree to follow them both online and at our events.

You agree that you will not:

  • Harass, threaten, stalk, intimidate, or abuse anyone.
  • Upload, possess, solicit, distribute, or attempt to distribute child sexual abuse material, or use the Service to sexually exploit, entice, traffic, or abuse a minor. Child sexual exploitation and abusive content are strictly prohibited. This results in immediate, permanent removal and is reported as required by law. We use automated systems to detect prohibited content; we may block or remove content, preserve relevant records, restrict or terminate accounts, and make reports to NCMEC or law enforcement as required or permitted by law. We are not required to provide notice of a safety detection, investigation, preservation action, or report.
  • Share intimate images of any person without that person's explicit consent, or share content produced by recording someone without their consent.
  • Post another member's identity, employer, location, or contact details, or anything else that could identify them outside the community, without their consent. Discretion about who is here is a condition of membership.
  • Screenshot, copy, or republish other members' content, profiles, or messages outside the community.
  • Impersonate anyone, or misrepresent your identity, age, or affiliation.
  • Send unsolicited commercial messages, spam, or recruitment pitches.
  • Solicit or offer commercial sexual services.
  • Attempt to gain unauthorized access to the Service, disrupt it, scrape it, or circumvent any access restriction or removal.
  • Use the Service for anything unlawful.

5. Your content

You keep ownership of everything you post. You give us a non-exclusive, worldwide, royalty-free license to host, store, reproduce, and display your content solely to operate and provide the Service — for example, showing your post to other members or delivering your message to its recipient. This license ends when you delete the content or your account, except as described in Section 8 and in our Privacy Policy.

You are responsible for what you post, and you confirm that you have the right to post it and that it does not infringe anyone else's rights.

We may remove content, and restrict or remove accounts, where we believe our standards, these Terms, or the law have been broken — or where necessary to protect members. Where practical we explain why, but we are not obliged to.

6. Reporting and enforcement

Every member can report content or another member, and block another member, from within the app. Reports go to our moderation team.

Enforcement can include removing content, muting, restricting features, suspending an account, or permanently removing someone. We keep records of moderation decisions so that we can enforce them consistently, including preventing removed people from returning.

7. Events and venue

We publish events, some of which are hosted by us and some by others. Attending an event may be subject to additional rules, including house rules and consent protocols at the venue, and to the terms of any ticketing provider. Attending is voluntary and at your own risk, and you agree to follow the rules in effect at the event.

8. Ending your membership

You may delete your account at any time in Settings → Delete Account. Deletion is permanent. We hold the account for 30 days first so that a deletion you regret can be undone: during that period you can sign in and choose Cancel deletion. Signing in by itself does not cancel it. After 30 days the account is erased and cannot be recovered.

When your account is deleted, the text of messages you sent remains visible to the people you sent them to, with your name and photo removed, because deleting it would leave holes in other members' conversations. Our Privacy Policy explains exactly what is deleted and what is retained.

We may suspend or terminate your access if you break these Terms, if we believe it is necessary to protect the community, or if we stop offering the Service.

9. Changes to the Service and to these Terms

We may change, add, or remove features. We may update these Terms; when we do, we will revise the "Last updated" date, and if a change materially affects your rights we will notify you in the app or by email before it takes effect. Continuing to use the Service after a change takes effect means you accept the updated Terms.

10. Disclaimers

The Service is provided "as is" and "as available", without warranties of any kind, whether express or implied, including any implied warranties of merchantability, fitness for a particular purpose, or non-infringement. We do not warrant that the Service will be uninterrupted, secure, or error-free.

We do not vet members beyond our application process, and we are not responsible for the conduct of any member, online or in person. Use your judgment. Interactions with other members, at events or otherwise, are at your own risk.

11. Limitation of liability

To the fullest extent permitted by law, Hit Me Up, LLC and its members, managers, employees, and contractors will not be liable for any indirect, incidental, special, consequential, exemplary, or punitive damages, or for any loss of profits, data, goodwill, or reputation, arising from or related to your use of the Service.

To the fullest extent permitted by law, our total liability for any claim relating to the Service will not exceed one hundred US dollars ($100).

Some jurisdictions do not allow certain limitations, so some of the above may not apply to you.

12. Indemnity

You agree to indemnify and hold harmless Hit Me Up, LLC from any claim, demand, loss, or expense (including reasonable legal fees) arising out of your content, your use of the Service, your conduct toward other members, or your breach of these Terms or of any law.

13. Governing law and disputes

These Terms are governed by the laws of the State of New York, without regard to its conflict-of-laws rules. You and Hit Me Up agree that any dispute will be brought exclusively in the state or federal courts located in New York County, New York, and you consent to their jurisdiction.

14. General

If any provision of these Terms is found unenforceable, the rest remains in effect. Our failure to enforce a provision is not a waiver of it. You may not assign these Terms; we may assign them in connection with a merger, acquisition, or sale of assets. These Terms, together with our Privacy Policy and Consent Policy, are the entire agreement between you and us regarding the Service.

15. Additional terms for app store downloads

If you obtained our app from the Apple App Store:

  • These Terms are between you and Hit Me Up, LLC only, not with Apple. Apple is not responsible for the app or its content.
  • Your use must comply with the Apple Media Services Terms of Service.
  • Apple has no obligation to provide maintenance or support for the app.
  • If the app fails to conform to any applicable warranty, you may notify Apple and Apple will refund the purchase price (if any); to the maximum extent permitted by law, Apple has no other warranty obligation.
  • Apple is not responsible for addressing any claim by you or a third party relating to the app, including product liability, legal or regulatory non-compliance, or consumer protection claims.
  • Apple is not responsible for investigating, defending, settling, or discharging any third-party claim that the app infringes intellectual property rights.
  • You confirm you are not located in a country subject to a US Government embargo or designated as "terrorist supporting", and are not on any US Government restricted party list.
  • Apple and its subsidiaries are third-party beneficiaries of these Terms and may enforce them against you.

If you obtained our app from Google Play, your use is also subject to the Google Play Terms of Service, and Google is not a party to these Terms and is not responsible for the app.

16. Contact

Hit Me Up, LLC · New York, NY