Frequently Asked Questions

What is Hit Me Up?

Hit Me Up (HMU) is a curated NYC community for poly, kink, and sex-positive folks. We host events, classes, and parties at our Lower Manhattan venue, and provide an online space for members to connect.

How do I become a member?

Anyone can create a Public account to browse events. To unlock the Social tier (messaging, channels, and member-only events), submit an application and, if needed, get sponsored by an existing member. Visit the Membership page to learn more.

What are the membership tiers?

There are three tiers: Public (anyone, browse events), Social (vetted members with full community access), and Private (deeper access for established members). Tiers are determined by your application and sponsorship status.

Membership tiers

All three tiers are free — they exist so we can vet the community and keep the space safer.

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How to join Created accountApproved applicationApproved sponsor
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Classes
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All member tiers are free. Join our Patreon for more benefits!

Consent is the foundation of everything we do. All members agree to our consent policy, and we actively enforce community standards. See our Consent page for the full policy and process.

Can I rent the venue for my own event?

Yes — our Lower Manhattan space is available for private rentals and partner events. Visit the Venue page to take a tour and submit an inquiry.

My question wasn't here

If you didn't find what you were looking for, please reach out — we're happy to help. Email us at hello@hitmeupnyc.com and a member of the team will get back to you.