Hardpoint: Mixer
Tue, Nov 10 · 7:00 PM – 10:00 PM
Join Hardpoint at the HMU Loft for a mixer! This event is open to the public, 21+.
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HMU Academy: Humiliation & Degradation Play
Tue, Nov 10 · 7:00 PM – 9:00 PM
Explore the deliciously dark side of shame, ego, and humiliation, and learn to turn vulnerability into pleasure and power.
Fetish Figure Drawing x HMU: Spicy Edition
Wed, Nov 11 · 8:00 PM – 10:30 PM
Join us for a sexy live-model drink-and-draw experience, where models strike provocative poses, inspiring artists to their creativity. BYOB.
HMU BIPOC Friday the ThirTEASE
Fri, Nov 13 · 8:00 PM – 1:30 AM
A kinky makeout event for open-minded BIPOC community at the HMU Loft, with a spooky twist!
HUMP! Film Festival: Fall Season
Sun, Nov 15 · 8:30 PM – 11:45 PM
HUMP! returns with an entirely new collection of short films for Fall 2026. Dan Savage's festival showcases independent filmmakers exploring intimacy, identity and connection, and this season it screens at Hit Me Up. Doors 8pm. Screening 8:30 to 10pm. Mixer 10pm to close. Stay for the Mixer: an optional, low-pressure PG-13 hangout with games and icebreakers after the screening. Cash bar by Grapevine all night. The screening runs on two floors to make room. Floor 5 and Floor 6 tickets are identical; Floor 5 is the open-captioned screening. Both floors are wheelchair accessible. 21+. 120 Walker St, New York, NY 10013
SocialOpen Loft Days: Coworking at HMU
Mon, Nov 16 · 12:00 PM – 6:00 PM
Join the HMU team and our vetted + private members only for a shared co-working and content creation experience in the HMU Loft.
Requires Social membership — Apply here
HMU Academy: Exploring Subspace & the Psychological Benefits of Submission
Mon, Nov 16 · 7:30 PM – 9:00 PM
If you're curious about the psychological benefits of subspace & power dynamics through a strengths based perspective, this one's for you
HMU Academy: Boundaries. Building Self-Worth, Trust & Connection
Tue, Nov 17 · 7:00 PM – 9:00 PM
Do you struggle with upholding boundaries, people-pleasing, or trust? This class is for you.
HMU Tie Me Down: Rope Jam
Wed, Nov 18 · 7:00 PM – 10:00 PM
Whether you're a skilled rope artist, an experienced rope bunny, or brand new and just curious, we welcome you!
HMU Tie Me Down: Rope 101
Thu, Nov 19 · 7:00 PM – 9:30 PM
Baby's first rope! An introduction to rope: tying and being tied.
The Love Seat: A Dating Show
Fri, Nov 20 · 7:00 PM – 10:30 PM
A retro-inspired dating game show where local singles take center stage on their search for love.
PrivateHit Me Up: PlayDay
Sun, Nov 22 · 3:00 PM – 9:00 PM
Join us in bringing our play party into the light of day! This time, with a holiday potluck <3
Requires Private membership — Apply here
SocialOpen Loft Days: Coworking at HMU
Mon, Nov 23 · 12:00 PM – 6:00 PM
Join the HMU team and our vetted + private members only for a shared co-working and content creation experience in the HMU Loft.
Requires Social membership — Apply here
HMU Academy: Meaningful Service for D/s
Mon, Nov 23 · 7:00 PM – 9:00 PM
This class is for anyone who knows or thinks they'd like to be in a relationship involving service -- even if you aren't just in it yet!
HMU Academy: Universal Guardian Training
Tue, Nov 24 · 6:45 PM – 9:15 PM
Get trained to be an excellent supportive member of our community as a Guardian!
SocialOpen Loft Days: Coworking at HMU
Mon, Nov 30 · 12:00 PM – 6:00 PM
Join the HMU team and our vetted + private members only for a shared co-working and content creation experience in the HMU Loft.
Requires Social membership — Apply here
SocialHit Me Up: Saint Andrew's Day Impact Jam
Mon, Nov 30 · 7:00 PM – 11:00 PM
An impact jam for HMU's private & vetted members in honor of this very real holiday: Saint Andrew's Day.
Requires Social membership — Apply here
HMU: Kinky Mixer
Tue, Dec 1 · 7:00 PM – 11:00 PM
Join HMU at our very own Loft for a classic kinky mixer of new friends and old!
HMU Tie Me Down: Rope & Sensation Play
Wed, Dec 2 · 7:00 PM – 9:15 PM
Learn essential rope skills and how to integrate a variety of sensory elements to enhance your play!
HMU Tie Me Down: Rope Jam
Thu, Dec 3 · 7:00 PM – 10:00 PM
Whether you're a skilled rope artist, an experienced rope bunny, or brand new and just curious, we welcome you!
Original Sin
Fri, Dec 4 · 9:00 PM – 4:00 AM
NYC's premiere kink and play organizers come together for a unique night celebrating the sensual, the sultry, and the seductive.
SocialOpen Loft Days: Coworking at HMU
Mon, Dec 7 · 12:00 PM – 6:00 PM
Join the HMU team and our vetted + private members only for a shared co-working and content creation experience in the HMU Loft.
Requires Social membership — Apply here
SocialHMU Academy: The Mat - A Conscience Contact Noode Wrestling Workshop
Tue, Dec 8 · 6:30 PM – 8:30 PM
A facilitated noode wrestling experience exploring connection, trust, body awareness, & playful physical contact through conscious movement
Requires Social membership — Apply here
SocialHit Me Up: Game Night
Wed, Dec 9 · 7:00 PM – 10:30 PM
A hangout for Hit Me Up social & private members, with a special gaming twist.
Requires Social membership — Apply here
HMU Tie Me Down: BIPOC Rope Jam
Sat, Dec 19 · 8:00 PM – 11:00 PM
Whether you're a skilled rope artist, an experienced rope bunny, or brand new and just curious, we welcome you to our BIPOC rope jam!
