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Hit Me Up
- Total events
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- Attendees
- 39k
- Overall rating
- 4.6
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HMU Academy: Understanding Partner-Sharing Dynamics
Thu, Nov 5 · 8:00 PM – 9:30 PM
A facilitated discussion exploring partner-sharing dynamics through the lenses of consent, power, communication, and lived experience.
PrivateHMU Play: Halloween Never Dies
Sat, Nov 7 · 9:00 PM – 3:00 AM
Our classic Play Party, where Halloween is resurrected for one last night! Hit Me Up's private members-only event.
Requires Private membership — Apply here
SocialOpen Loft Days: Coworking at HMU
Mon, Nov 9 · 12:00 PM – 6:00 PM
Join the HMU team and our vetted + private members only for a shared co-working and content creation experience in the HMU Loft.
Requires Social membership — Apply here
HMU: Kinky Mixer
Mon, Nov 9 · 7:00 PM – 11:00 PM
Join HMU at Medusa Art Studios Bar for a classic kinky mixer of new friends and old!
HMU Academy: Humiliation & Degradation Play
Tue, Nov 10 · 7:00 PM – 9:00 PM
Explore the deliciously dark side of shame, ego, and humiliation, and learn to turn vulnerability into pleasure and power.
Fetish Figure Drawing x HMU: Spicy Edition
Wed, Nov 11 · 8:00 PM – 10:30 PM
Join us for a sexy live-model drink-and-draw experience, where models strike provocative poses, inspiring artists to their creativity. BYOB.
HMU BIPOC Friday the ThirTEASE
Fri, Nov 13 · 8:00 PM – 1:30 AM
A kinky makeout event for open-minded BIPOC community at the HMU Loft, with a spooky twist!
SocialOpen Loft Days: Coworking at HMU
Mon, Nov 16 · 12:00 PM – 6:00 PM
Join the HMU team and our vetted + private members only for a shared co-working and content creation experience in the HMU Loft.
Requires Social membership — Apply here
HMU Academy: Exploring Subspace & the Psychological Benefits of Submission
Mon, Nov 16 · 7:30 PM – 9:00 PM
If you're curious about the psychological benefits of subspace & power dynamics through a strengths based perspective, this one's for you
HMU Academy: Boundaries. Building Self-Worth, Trust & Connection
Tue, Nov 17 · 7:00 PM – 9:00 PM
Do you struggle with upholding boundaries, people-pleasing, or trust? This class is for you.
HMU Tie Me Down: Rope Jam
Wed, Nov 18 · 7:00 PM – 10:00 PM
Whether you're a skilled rope artist, an experienced rope bunny, or brand new and just curious, we welcome you!
HMU Tie Me Down: Rope 101
Thu, Nov 19 · 7:00 PM – 9:30 PM
Baby's first rope! An introduction to rope: tying and being tied.
The Love Seat: A Dating Show
Fri, Nov 20 · 7:00 PM – 10:30 PM
A retro-inspired dating game show where local singles take center stage on their search for love.
PrivateHit Me Up: PlayDay
Sun, Nov 22 · 3:00 PM – 9:00 PM
Join us in bringing our play party into the light of day! This time, with a holiday potluck <3
Requires Private membership — Apply here
SocialOpen Loft Days: Coworking at HMU
Mon, Nov 23 · 12:00 PM – 6:00 PM
Join the HMU team and our vetted + private members only for a shared co-working and content creation experience in the HMU Loft.
Requires Social membership — Apply here
HMU Academy: Meaningful Service for D/s
Mon, Nov 23 · 7:00 PM – 9:00 PM
This class is for anyone who knows or thinks they'd like to be in a relationship involving service -- even if you aren't just in it yet!
HMU Academy: Universal Guardian Training
Tue, Nov 24 · 6:45 PM – 9:15 PM
Get trained to be an excellent supportive member of our community as a Guardian!
SocialOpen Loft Days: Coworking at HMU
Mon, Nov 30 · 12:00 PM – 6:00 PM
Join the HMU team and our vetted + private members only for a shared co-working and content creation experience in the HMU Loft.
Requires Social membership — Apply here
SocialHit Me Up: Saint Andrew's Day Impact Jam
Mon, Nov 30 · 7:00 PM – 11:00 PM
An impact jam for HMU's private & vetted members in honor of this very real holiday: Saint Andrew's Day.
Requires Social membership — Apply here
Original Sin
Fri, Dec 4 · 9:00 PM – 4:00 AM
NYC's premiere kink and play organizers come together for a unique night celebrating the sensual, the sultry, and the seductive.
HMU Tie Me Down: BIPOC Rope Jam
Sat, Dec 19 · 8:00 PM – 11:00 PM
Whether you're a skilled rope artist, an experienced rope bunny, or brand new and just curious, we welcome you to our BIPOC rope jam!
