Hit Me Up

Curated experiences
for curious minds.

A private membership community for the poly, kink, and sex-positive scene in New York City — events, classes, and parties, grounded in consent and care.

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Total events
924
Attendees
40k
Overall rating
4.6

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HUMP! Film Festival: Fall Season

Sun, Nov 15 · 8:30 PM – 11:45 PM
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HUMP! returns with an entirely new collection of short films for Fall 2026. Dan Savage's festival showcases independent filmmakers exploring intimacy, identity and connection, and this season it screens at Hit Me Up. Doors 8pm. Screening 8:30 to 10pm. Mixer 10pm to close. Stay for the Mixer: an optional, low-pressure PG-13 hangout with games and icebreakers after the screening. Cash bar by Grapevine all night. The screening runs on two floors to make room. Floor 5 and Floor 6 tickets are identical; Floor 5 is the open-captioned screening. Both floors are wheelchair accessible. 21+. 120 Walker St, New York, NY 10013

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Open Loft Days: Coworking at HMU

Mon, Nov 16 · 12:00 PM – 6:00 PM
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Join the HMU team and our vetted + private members only for a shared co-working and content creation experience in the HMU Loft.

Requires Social membership — Apply here

HMU Tie Me Down: Rope Jam

Wed, Nov 18 · 7:00 PM – 10:00 PM
PartyPublic

Whether you're a skilled rope artist, an experienced rope bunny, or brand new and just curious, we welcome you!

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Hit Me Up: PlayDay

Sun, Nov 22 · 3:00 PM – 9:00 PM
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Join us in bringing our play party into the light of day! This time, with a holiday potluck <3

Requires Private membership — Apply here
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Open Loft Days: Coworking at HMU

Mon, Nov 23 · 12:00 PM – 6:00 PM
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Join the HMU team and our vetted + private members only for a shared co-working and content creation experience in the HMU Loft.

Requires Social membership — Apply here
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Open Loft Days: Coworking at HMU

Mon, Nov 30 · 12:00 PM – 6:00 PM
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Join the HMU team and our vetted + private members only for a shared co-working and content creation experience in the HMU Loft.

Requires Social membership — Apply here
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Hit Me Up: Saint Andrew's Day Impact Jam

Mon, Nov 30 · 7:00 PM – 11:00 PM
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An impact jam for HMU's private & vetted members in honor of this very real holiday: Saint Andrew's Day.

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FETISH: The Official Book Club

Wed, Dec 2 · 7:00 PM – 10:00 PM
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Join me at Hit Me Up for a discussion of Fetish, with Q&A and smaller group conversations about desire, kink, and what turns us on. You have a few weeks to read the book!

HMU Tie Me Down: Rope Jam

Thu, Dec 3 · 7:00 PM – 10:00 PM
PartyPublic

Whether you're a skilled rope artist, an experienced rope bunny, or brand new and just curious, we welcome you!

Original Sin

Fri, Dec 4 · 9:00 PM – 4:00 AM
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NYC's premiere kink and play organizers come together for a unique night celebrating the sensual, the sultry, and the seductive.

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Open Loft Days: Coworking at HMU

Mon, Dec 7 · 12:00 PM – 6:00 PM
HangoutSocial

Join the HMU team and our vetted + private members only for a shared co-working and content creation experience in the HMU Loft.

Requires Social membership — Apply here
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HMU Academy: The Mat - A Conscience Contact Noode Wrestling Workshop

Tue, Dec 8 · 6:30 PM – 8:30 PM
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A facilitated noode wrestling experience exploring connection, trust, body awareness, & playful physical contact through conscious movement

Requires Social membership — Apply here
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Hit Me Up: Game Night

Wed, Dec 9 · 7:00 PM – 10:30 PM
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A hangout for Hit Me Up social & private members, with a special gaming twist.

Requires Social membership — Apply here
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HMU Play: Mistletoe Mayhem

Fri, Dec 11 · 9:00 PM – 3:00 AM
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Our classic Play Party, with a lil wintry twist! Hit Me Up's private members-only event.

Requires Private membership — Apply here
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Hit Me Up: Movie Night!

Thu, Dec 17 · 7:30 PM – 10:30 PM
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A movie night & mixer for Hit Me Up private & social members.

Requires Social membership — Apply here